Hell of a Guy
Adventure is worthwhile - Aesop

Thursday, March 27, 2008

My finest Hour…


I have just arrived back in room 1506 of the Indianapolis Hilton.  I have a definite buzz going on.  I started this little release from reality about 4:45 this afternoon.  Typically, I do not drink enough to the point where I lose control of my senses, but tonight may be a different story.  Definitely, I have overstepped the limits of my endurance.  I am fucked up, as it were.

One of the differences between me and most of the rest of the world is that I am so totally in love with myself.  Unconditional love is love without expectation and/or need. I expect nothing of me and there isn’t anything I need of me to be in order to be happy with me.  Whether this makes sense to you or not is of no consequence.  Frankly (it took me typing this word four times to spell it correctly and to get it right), I could give a shit less.  The important thing in my life is that I make sense to me.  Nothing in my life is more important than me making sense to me.  In that way, I make more sense to you in my love for you, for of you I have no need or expectation, and, therefore, I can love you unconditionally.  Make sense?  In a nut shell, I love you and do not expect anything in return from you.  You need only “be.”

I am in Indianapolis tonight.  I am so happy I could cry.  My life is blessed.  I am at peace with all that is and with all who are at peace.  What more could I ask?

God bless you and me!

And that is all I have to say about that…

Monday, March 24, 2008

Taking Action - The Dale Method…


The following is an e-mail I got from my buddy Dale.  Dale is one of the most brilliant people I know.  I love his philosophy of life and his ability to see and capture the big picture.  This man is not afraid to share his thoughts and feelings with anyone…he is the ultimate giver, never asking for a thing in return, and I love him for the man he is, and he is the best Life Coach I know.

Just below the e-mail Dale sent a group of people is the Thank You he talks about in the e-mail.
I am posting this because it makes so much sense.  Many of us sit around and bitch about stuff, but never take any action to correct it.  Dale has laid out a path.  Read and do it, or read it and don’t do it.  Your results will still be your results.

From Dale:

Here is a LONG email.  Find a quiet time to open it. It may piss you off, and if it does, consider that may the value of it. If it doesn’t, there may be a lot yet to do to ‘be’.

Are you still seeking more information on ways to get past being ‘stuck’ on the success plateau where you see yourself?
The power in your life is to take action. With clear action you will move out into the leveraged income and full life you are certain is to be yours ‘someday.’

‘All you have to do is know where you’re going.
The answers will come to you of their own accord.’

This is an opportunity to shift.

So, my hope for you at this Easter Season (a time of renewal and change) is that you will make the effort to put down everything you are doing. Lay aside all of the materials that you have researched. Stop anticipating the answer is somewhere other than inside of yourself.  I hope you will take a lined ruled pad, a pencil and go sit quietly beside some noisy running water in a solitary, uninterrupted place. (I will explain this noisy running waters importance at the end of this letter to you)  No music, traffic sounds, cell phone, TV, radio, Ipod, audio tapes (CD’s), videos (DVD’s), books, people, NERD, drugs, alcohol, food distractions, or external influences except your mind. Then, sit until you are just listening to your heart. NOT your nerd, or mind. When you get a message that resonates, take positive action: 1. Write the idea down.2. Outline at least a half dozen SMALL separate steps you have never before taken for anything to further this idea, I call these ideas ‘resonance’. 3. Prioritize these steps in the order for them to flow from one to the next. 4. Study what you have now in front of you. Does it still resonate? Does it depend on action? Does it depend on ONLY you, and no one else? If it does ALL of these things, follow your heart.

When I do this, I often have a list of resonances. I list them, and list a few steps for each. When I have more than one going on in my heart, I usually see one of them rise to the top at a higher resonance than the others. This becomes my focus, until it becomes a learning experience. Than I regroup and go back to my list and work at one of the other resonances until it becomes a learning experience and so on, until it crashes. Then I go back to my list and see what I’ve learned about my list and the steps I’ve outlined for all those resonances I had while sitting beside that noisy running water. It is amazing how many of those resonances seem clearer after running one of them down to the learning experience I needed for the next one to seem clearer and more possible.

This has been my method to finding the successful seasons, reasons and life events (all are resonances) that have made me the happiest in my heart.  The ‘Thank You’ message also applies to taking care of business. Taking care of business IS taking action on heart felt self dependent ideas. If you will just add self reliance to what you know, look inside, trust yourself, not depend on a break, or participation of others, you will blast through and above the plateau you are on. The action of and for the self is critical to learn. It requires finding something that is of heartfelt personal resonance that you can succeed at without anyone else making or breaking the success that will set you free.

For me the first one I remember in my life was in 1954. I drove my Grandparents from California to Minnesota towing a house trailer. I was 12 years old. Success? Absolute.

Now then: I assume if you have read this far, you deserve to know the significance of the NOISY RUNNING WATER.
I attended a self focused training in 1984 lead by Robert Kiosaki (Google him). At one point, he sat at a table and said to all of the trainees: ‘When you know your internal fire, come sit at the table with me’. It took hours and hours for me to ‘get it.’ At the table where he was sitting, was a radio playing an audio cassette of the sounds of a loudly flowing river, or pictures or signs or something indicating a river of abundance.
The message was to eliminate all distractions from your track and the ‘River of Abundance’ will always be there for you.
After a few years it seems now, I discovered that I could actually go to a place where there was loudly flowing water (This was easy in Alaska) and recreate the experience ‘in the room’ with Robert. This has been the key to my finding:
Judy, happiness, Curves, Millennium 3, LP, Amy, David, Eddie, Danielle, Sylvester, Debra, and confidence.

I send this with the seasons fullest wishes for you,

loving powerful free
‘Only when I am willing to go too far will I know how far I can go’  WDH 2004

Here is the Thank You message my friend Dale speaks off:
You never know when your guardian angel will be there for you so I have to try…I am sending this to you to see how many actually read their e-mail.  Your response will be interesting. Pay attention to what you read.
After you have finished reading it, you will know the reason it was sent to you.

Here goes:

People come into your life for a reason, a season or a lifetime. When you know which one it is, you will know what to do for that person. When someone is in your life for a REASON, it is usually to meet a need you have expressed.  They have come to assist you through a difficulty, to provide you with guidance and support, to aid you physically, emotionally or spiritually. They may seem like a godsend and they are They are there for the reason you need them to be.  Then, without any wrongdoing on your part or at an inconvenient time, this person will say or do something to bring the relationship to an end.  Sometimes they die. Sometimes they walk away.  Sometimes they act up and force you to take a stand.  What we must realize is that our need has been met, our desire fulfilled, their work is done.  The prayer you sent up has been answered and now it is time to move on.

Some people come into your life for a SEASON, because your turn has come to share, grow or learn.
They bring you an experience of peace or make you laugh.  They may teach you something you have never done.  They usually give you an unbelievable amount of joy.  Believe it, it is real. But only for a season.

LIFETIME relationships teach you lifetime lessons, things you must build upon in order to have a solid emotional foundation.  Your job is to accept the lesson, love the person and put what you have learned to use in all other relationships and areas of your life It is said that love is blind but friendship is clairvoyant.
Thank you for being a part of my life,  whether you were a reason, a season or a lifetime.

Send this to every friend that you have on-line, including the person who sent it to you.

0 Replies - you may need to work on your ‘people skills’
2 Replies - you are nice but probably need to be more outgoing
4 Replies - you have picked your friends well!
6 Replies - you are downright popular
8 Replies or More - you are totally awesome
(and that’s probably why you’re on MY list)

I wonder what mine will be.

Forward this message the same day you received it . It may sound ridiculous, but it is right on time. We believe that something is about to happen. Angels exist, only sometimes they haven’t got wings and we call them friends; you are one of them. Something wonderful is about to happen to you and your friends. Tomorrow at 11:04 somebody will address you and tell you something you have been waiting to hear Please do not break it. Send it to at least 7 of your friends.


Monday, March 10, 2008

Talking to an Older Me…


I saw a TV commercial where a guy talks with a 50-year older version of himself.  You may have seen it; he is at a hospital nursery looking through a window at his newborn child.  I don’t recall what the conversation between them was about, but I suppose it had something to do with planning for the future.  It caused me to wonder what I might say to me if I were able to have a conversation with an older me, or even a younger me.

The older “me” would probably be pretty easy.  “How’s it going?”  “Any health issues I need to know about?”  “Got enough money to get by on?”  “How’s your sex life?”  Just kidding about the sex thing; I probably all ready know the answer.  I think most of the questions would be about what it is like in my older years, though at sixty-four I don’t expect to be around in thirty years, let alone fifty, but that is okay, it’s been a great ride so far, and I have no regrets.

The conversation with a 50-year younger me would be a heck of a lot different.  It would probably begin with “You dumb shit!!!” and go downhill from there.  Fifty years ago I was fourteen.  The year was 1958.  Dwight Eisenhower was president.  We were not yet embroiled in the mess in Viet Nam.  I was in the eight grade striving hard to be an under achiever, and was doing pretty well at it.  I had little interest in school work, little interest in girls, no interest in church stuff and not much in the way of sports, but I did know everything there was to know about life, and, of course, my parents were stupid.  It would have been like talking to a grandfather.  I would not have listened.  I am not so sure a conversation such as this would have had any impact on me at all, ever, but it might have been neat.

I would have told a younger me the importance of education and of getting that college degree.  I might have told the fourteen-year old about how much I enjoy writing and wish I had a degree in English, or how much I enjoy being in the kitchen and wishing I had gone to culinary school.  He would know how much I have loved the job I have held for the past twenty-five years and the company that employs me.  One topic would most definitely be about doing his best at whatever he does, and about integrity and honesty and vulnerability.  I would caution him about always doing the right thing, and about taking the high road and some risks in life.  I would assuredly tell him that at age 60 he will create a personal relationship with God, that he will talk to God and God will return the favor.  I would tell him things change and change is not bad, but it is constant.  I would tell him of the two extraordinary women he will marry and how happy I am to now have The Nancy in my life as my wife.  I would tell him of his daughters and his stepdaughter, and of his six grandchildren.  I would tell him what an impact his father would be in his life down the road.  I would tell him that all in all I think he will be proud one day of the man he will become.

You have all heard of the book “The Secret” and it’s take on the Law of Attraction, right? Well, I can’t decide whether I attracted the success I have enjoyed with just my high school diploma and twenty-two college credits or if my Adonis good looks and outstanding personality have gotten me where I am at this point in my life.  For whatever reason I am where I am, I am thankful.  If I did it, I pat myself on the back.  If a higher power was the force behind it, cool!  Thanks a bunch, God, I owe you.  If I get to have that conversation with an older Hell of a Guy, he can thank me for where he is at, and I’ll ask him about his health.  If it’s the younger guy, I may just give him a hug and tell him everything will be okay.

And that is all I have to say about that…

Thursday, March 06, 2008

A Haircut and A Conversation…


I have been going to get haircuts by the same lady for close to five years, though I don’t have a clue as to where the time has gone.  Linda, let’s call her, is a diminutive lady but with a big presence.  Recently I stopped by to have my hair “thinned,” not that it needed be any thinner than it is already, but when it begins to curl up in the back, it’s time to see Linda.  Propinquity allowed me to fall in love with the lady who cuts my hair.  Her unique perspective on life gives me hope for the rest of the world.  It cost me about $4000 to find out what this neat lady knows instinctively, though I don’t think she necessarily knows it for what it is.

I was sitting in her chair, and unlike a lot of people who have cut my hair in my sixty-four years, Linda does not just make small talk.  I don’t remember exactly what brought it up or how we arrived at the point, but Linda began to tell me about her husband.  It seems every once in a while, Linda’s husband takes a little nostalgia trip and not in a good way.  He had mentioned to her an event in his past wherein he had chosen the wrong path, and I suppose he was going on about one of those “if only I had” conversations…  Well, my little Linda lit into him about dwelling on something over which he had no control, how it was time to let it go and move on, and how not to allow the past to rule his life.  Wow!  I thought that is so cool!  The woman gets it.  Then she shocked me further by telling me she told him life is all about choices, which it truly is.  I didn’t say anything, but kept on a grinning and a smiling.

She went to tell me about another relationship.  A rather abusive relationship where after a period of time she knew she had to get out of it or die (her words).  She told me she chose to bail, and that is when I had to ask her if that was when she finally decided she was worthy.  At that point it was her turn to smile.  It was then she said she forgave herself of the dumb things she had done in her life.  I asked her when she forgave this man, because one is finally free of the past when one forgives the ones that caused the hurt.  She had.

I am thrilled beyond words to have done the workshops at Millennium3 Education in Dallas.  In the past three and half years, The Nancy and I have invested a whole lot of money supporting others to do one or more of these programs.  Money, I might add that we gladly gave and was well spent, given the results we have seen.  I believe everyone we got there has gained something from the experience, if only to leave Dallas having fallen in love with themselves.  Here is a lady who would probably benefit by falling more in love with herself, but might also be able to be the trainer at one of these because she gets it.

Life is nothing more than possibilities and choices.

Add that is all I have to say about that…