Hell of a Guy

Ten Years Ago Today…


The Nancy and I are in Marco Island, Florida on a sort of mini-vacation with the sole purpose of celebrating our 10th Wedding Anniversary.

It has been 3652 days since we were married on a gorgeous day at sunset under a blue sky dotted with extremely white puffy clouds as we stood barefoot in the sand at Makena Cove, Maui, Hawaii.  As waves of the Pacific broke over lava rocks behind us, the Reverend Alalani Astara Hill joined us as one with a wedding ceremony based on the Hawaiian culture.

There were just five of us on the point that day, The Nancy and I, the preacher, the wedding planner and a videographer, who served as our witnesses.  After nearly eight years of being an “item,” as it were, and seeing one another only about twice each month, we made the decision to be married somewhere barefoot on a beach at sunset, Hawaii seemed a good choice.  We could not have chosen a more beautiful spot or a more perfect day.


I fell in love with this woman long before I knew her.  Sounds weird, I know, but I feel it every time I see her or hear her voice.  There is “Something in the way she moves,” there is a rhythm, a sway, a saunter that draws my eyes to her even now.  Her voice, “Attracts me like no other lover,” is music to my ears, a symphony I love to listen to over and over.  There is prosody is her speech, a poetic rhythm and meter in the way she says certain words, certain phrases.  I am drawn to her as a moth is to a light. I love to watch her from across the room when we are at social events, her majesty and grace are always present.  She is my princess.

Josh Groban sings a song entitled “When You Say You Love Me.”  When I hear it I have to close my eyes, the first few words bring me a mental picture of The Nancy, and that picture triggers my emotions and gets my heart to racing and my eyes glistening.

Like the sound of silence calling,
I hear your voice and suddenly
I’m falling, lost in a dream.
Like the echoes of our souls are meeting,
You say those words and my heart stops beating.
I wonder what it means.
What could it be that comes over me?
At times I can’t move.
At times I can hardly breathe.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there’s no one else alive

You’re the one I’ve always thought of.
I don’t know how, but I feel sheltered in your love.
You’re where I belong.
And when you’re with me if I close my eyes,
There are times I swear I feel like I can fly
For a moment in time.
Somewhere between the Heavens and Earth,
And frozen in time, Oh when you say those words.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
For a moment, there’s no one else alive

And this journey that we’re on.
How far we’ve come and I celebrate every moment.
And when you say you love me,
That’s all you have to say.
I’ll always feel this way.

When you say you love me
The world goes still, so still inside and
When you say you love me
In that moment, I know why I’m alive

When you say you love me.
When you say you love me.
Do you know how I love you?

Florida may not be Maui, Hawaii.  The Hilton Marco Island may not be Makena Cove (makena is “abundance” in Hawaiian), though the sun still sets in the west here, too.  But some things don’t change and really do remain the same.  The Nancy has not changed.  She is still the most beautiful woman in the world with the blue-gray eyes I fell in love with many years ago and drew me closer to her.  There is a grace about her, a gentle personality people are drawn to.  She is sincere and open, vulnerable, joyful, competitive, trustworthy and sweet.  There just isn’t a single thing I could change in her to make her better.  The Nancy is a giver, not a taker.  She gives so much and asks for little.  My love for her is unconditional, and she is so easy to love.  All she has to do is just be The Nancy; the rest is up to me. 

At the end of the movie “The City of Angels” Seth, the angel played by Nicholas Cage is asked by Cassiel (Andre Braugher) if giving up immortality to be with Maggie Rice (Meg Ryan) for such a short while was worth it, Maggie died after being struck by a car as she rode her bike.  Without hesitation, Seth said, “I would rather have had one breath of her hair, one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand… than an eternity without it. 

As The Nancy and I stood on the shore at MaKenna Cove ten-years ago today, I toasted our marriage with that story as the sun slowly drifted below the horizon.  Each year as we watch our wedding video, I think of those words and how they are so exactly true for me each day.

For one breath of her hair, for one kiss of her mouth, one touch of her hand…

And that is all I have to say about that…

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