Hell of a Guy
You will never live if you are looking for the meaning of life - Albert Camus

Tuesday, September 03, 2013

I Love Me…


Nice title, eh?  And, no, this is not a narcissistic view of this Hell of a Guy.  It is actually about you.

Back in April of this year I had the very distinct pleasure of speaking to two classes at the Montgomery Blair High School in Silver Spring, Maryland.  In the spring of 2012 I met a teacher, better described as an “Outstanding Educator,” at an event in Washington, DC.  At some point in our conversation I gave him one of the business cards I carry with name on it and my http://www.hell-of-a-guy.com  blog address.  I like handing out the cards just to hear the chuckle people utter as they read the name of it, never really thinking people might actually visit it and read my BS, let alone like it.  Mr. Shindel did, and several months later asked me to consider speaking to his philosophy classes to discuss my philosophy on life and my views on it.  I was flattered.

I must admit I was a tad uncomfortable as he and I entered the first class.  As I wrote in an early piece I posted, I seriously wondered if this soon to be 70-year old could impart anything to a class of 17- and 18-year olds could possibly relate to.  Most all of the students had, somewhat surprisingly, accessed my website and read some of my stuff.  Again, I was very flattered.  We discussed a lot of things, and both of the 45-minute classes whizzed by, and as I left that school that afternoon I had to wonder again if I said enough, too much or even too little. 

One point I hit on was “love,” and I very much hope what I said stuck.  I asked the kids when they looked in the mirror could they honestly say to the reflection they saw, “I love you?”  I went on to say I wholeheartedly believe unless you love yourself you really cannot give love truly to another, and I totally believe this to be true; I know it is true.

In his book “Conversations with God” Neale Donald Walsch wrote his description of “unconditional love” and I have to agree with him 100%.  He wrote unconditional love is given only when there is no need or expectation of the loved one.  An example of this is with my love for The Nancy which I didn’t even realize until I read this book.  After all these years The Nancy knows she doesn’t have to anything nor do I have any expectations of her in order for me to love her; she just has to be The Nancy, and I love the hell out of her for it and always will.

Now, if you can go to a mirror and look deep into your own eyes and without a shred of doubt say “I love you” to yourself, congratulations.  If you cannot it is time to begin asking yourself why not and make some changes.  Then you can be a narcissist like me and love the hell out of someone like The Nancy.

And that is all I have to say about that…