Hell of a Guy
No legacy is so rich as honesty - William Shakespeare

Wednesday, January 30, 2013

My Mantra…


A “mantra,” simply stated is a sound, syllable, word, or group of words that is considered capable of “creating transformation”.  I adopted one in 2004.

It was in the fall of that year I attended a series of personal development workshops in Dallas, Texas.  The Nancy had done these in the summer of that year, and did them at the suggestion of my eldest daughter.  The overall affect these had on The Nancy caused me to want some of what she had.  It was there with in a very short time I found a rule for my life that is easy for me to follow and cherish.

During the first or second session of the five-day workshop a poster with this statement was hung on a wall.  It said: “I am fully responsible for what happens to me in my life.”  I could not stop looking at it.  I read it over and over.

Say what?

I, one super Hell of a Guy, am fully responsible for my circumstances?  All the stuff I assume to be, or has been, in my life is “my” fault?  I don’t get to blame someone else for the time I got fired for breaking the rules, for my not going to college or the time I was involved in an auto accident?  The answer to my questions is a very affirmative “yes” and knew I owed a bunch of people an apology. 

Actually, I have adopted and live by two mantras, if that is allowed.  The first is that I am fully responsible for what happens to me in my life.  I am the source of my happiness or my misery.  The second mantra is one my wife and I learned from our youngest granddaughter when she was just five years old.  To explain it best I copied a portion from remarks my wife as MC made on at the opening day program for her school district in 2009:

“You know how it is said that we learn everything we’ll ever need to know in kindergarten…well I’d like to share a little story with you this morning of a valuable lesson I learned from a kindergartner….

“My granddaughter, Vivienne, was to turn five in a few days so her parents hosted a little party with about a dozen other five year-olds at a pizza restaurant …well you can imagine what a wonderful time it was and so as she was settling into bed that night she said to her mom…”This has been the best day of my whole life!!!!”…

“The next day brought a trip to her grandmother’s farm where she got to go swimming and pet the goats and donkeys….and as you can guess, at bedtime she once again declared…”Mom, this has been the best day ever”…

“The next day dawned as a merely normal late summer day…no special plans… no thoughts of any visits or visitors.  But as fate would have it before the day was out another milestone would pass in the form of her losing her first tooth.  So with anticipation of a visit from the tooth fairy…Miss Vivienne surmised that in fact, TODAY had been the best day ever!!!

“So from the innocent mindset of a child it can be learned that no matter what…each of us has the power to create for ourselves “THE BEST DAY EVER” attitude…one that can’t help but influence all those around us, our co-workers, the students, our own friends and families … but instead of declaring it after the fact…you can begin EACH DAY with these words…”

As my wife indicated it could, “The Best Day Ever” sets the tone for my day.  Taking full responsibility for what happens to me in my life allows me the freedom to be me.  I don’t get to blame anyone but me for my problems or my issues.  Accepting it has made my life more fulfilling and me happier than I could have ever expected to be.

And at night before I fall asleep as I lay my bed with my head resting against my pillow I get to acknowledge “This has been The Best Day Ever.”

And that is all I have to say about that…